The transsexual phenomenon
Harry Benjamin, M.D.
He was one of the pioneers of transsexualism (you can read about him at this Wikipedia entry). He was the author of the book The transsexual phenomenon, originally published in 1966. This book can be read on the internet online. I haven't read the entire book yet, only the 2nd and 3rd chapter.
From the book: No transvestite should ever marry a girl without telling her of his peculiarity beforehand. It would be too unfair. Too many have not done so and paid dearly later on. Among Buchner's subjects, 72 per cent did not tell.
It was a deadly situation, risking everything we have done and we have in common, but I'm glad I've told her. My only fear is that I'm not the man she wants.
Perhaps a majority of transvestites' wives are willing to tolerate he husband's hobby, provided they do not have to see him dressed as a woman.
I wonder if my parter would ever agree at least in this. I know, it is really hard to understand such a request, but for an outsider, it is not imaginable the desire, the need, the urge for dressing like women.
Emphatic among present-day writers as to a supposedly nonsexual nature of transvestism is Charles Prince, Ph.D., who himself is a transvestite. He would like to see the term transvestism replaced by "femiphilia," indicating "the love of things feminine," and he believes that in this way much of the association between transvestism and sex may be eliminated.
It is very interresting for me to read about educated people, who are transvestite, and who are searching for some solution for this state. It unfortunate, that the word femiphilia cannot be found - except in this book - by search engines.